uber long meme, 'borrowed' from Del

[minervasolo]

basic info
* what is your current relationship status? single. what else?
* what is your sexual orientation? (this is Del's answer, but it's probably the best description of my sexuality I've found in a longer while) Individual-based - I tend to only find one person truly attractive at a time, two at maximum. Gender is mostly irrelevant.
* what character traits do you look for in a potential interest? I don't, basically. Does 'not wet' count?
* what sort of people do you like, as far as what they're interested in in life? similar interests, I guess, but I'm a conformist, so I have similar interests to everyone.
* what physical traits do you look for in a potential interest? nice hair. Then eyes, i guess. But mostly just hair, and a willingness to look after themself.
* what kind of fashion-sense attracts you? clean.
* what kind of hair style do you find attractive on a potential mate? short on girls, long on guys.
* what is the usual age range you look at? so far, all older, but I'm not fussed. younger tends to stop at six months younger, but then, I've always been one of the youngest in my year, so I don't know many younger guys.
* what traits turn you off? unwashedness... um. personality wise, bascally nothing You can lie about me behind my back, or to my face, and i'll still like you. And and being indecisive and/or wet.
* do you prefer to date various people, or do you pretty much fall into monogamous relationships quickly? I haven't done either for a very long time, alas.
* are you afraid to ask people out on dates? never done it. I guess that's a yes.

single life
* if you're single right now, do you wish you were in a relationship? sometimes, but only because I'm shallow and I want the social status.
* what are the positive points about being single? eyecandy. Knowing that I don't fanycp people I date, or date pople I fancy anyway.
* what are the negative points about being single? paranoia. oh, and realising I'm too pragmatic to date anyway. Because that's always depressing.
* when single, do you often find youself longing for companionship? Friends. That's what they're there for.
* how well do you handle rejection? same way as everything else. "Oh? Okay then."
* do you miss your last sweetie? No. saw him today, though i don't think you can call him a 'sweetie'. Though he was very very sweet.
* do you think it's better to look for love, or let it find you? Love? I hope it finds me, because I'll never find it.

when you're in a relationship
* if you're currently in a relationship right now, how long have you been in it? n/a
* what's the longest relationship you've been in? five months.
* the shortest? dunno, three months? How long after you stop caling ach other does it count as over?
* what are the positive points about being in a relationship? huggles.
* what are the negative points about being in a relationship? with my relationships: lack of huggles, or anything else!
* have you ever gone out with someone you didn't know very well? I went to an all-girl school. And, being repressed at that point, of course the guys I dated I didn't know well.
* have you ever gone out with someone you had a crush on? nope. Only one crush, anyway, and that was a no.
* have you ever gone out with someone who had a crush on you? People who have crushed on me scare me. These people include Sam and Jason.
* what is an example of an ideal, perfect day with your sweetie? A whole day might send me nuts.
* how important is it to you to know the exact status of your relationships (ie "dating", "going steady", etc)? I like casual. It's so much easier.
* do you think couples should spend a very large amount of time together, or space things out a tad? As metnioned, all girl school, so i'm used to speaking on phone pehaps twice a wek and seeing each other at weekends. It works for me. More than that and, as mentioned above, I'd go nuts.
* have you ever found yourself worried about commitment? I don't emotionally commit. To anyone. Not even dearest friends. Biit of a bugger that.
* when involved, do you try to think about the here-and-now, or do you often think about the future? I don't think about the relationship at all, except in a 'I wish i could work up the nerve to dump him' kind of way.
* how do you prefer to handle disagreements? I agree with the other person. If I can't, I just stop arguing
* when in a fight, it is better to euphamize things to soften the hurt, or should one be blunt? Me, fight? You gotta be kidding.
* how do you feel when your mate is mad at you and won't tell you why? I worry, and ask other people. Then they go all evasive and I just give up, and let siad mate work out whatever's up or tell me.

feelings
* do you have a crush right now? I honestly have no idea.
* do they know? if the above is yes, then yes.
* what's the longest period of time you've ever had a crush? i prolongue crushes on purpose, because otherwise I feel too single. So five years, then ^_^
* have you ever confessed your feelings to a crush? On LJ. [sarcasm]Because that's a good medium[/sarcasm] Passice confrontation, yasee.
* has someone who had a crush on you ever confessed to you? Yes. Told him i fancied girl i had/have crush on. Ought to have put him off more than it did.
* do you tell a lot of people when you have a crush? (a) people who don;t know the person I have a crush on or (b) after they person knows.
* how do you feel about long-distance relationships? wouldn't work for me. For other people, I don't see why not.
* have you ever pined for someone when you're not around them? nope.
* would you get involved with someone if they had a child already? sure.
* what would you do if you got pregnant / made her pregnant while in a relationship? panic. Then reorganise all my life plans and cry a lot.
* would you get involved with someone if they were previously married? yes, but I don't believe in divorce, so I'd want to know precsely why it ended, and why they got married in the first place.
* how big of an issue is your mate's morals, to your compatibility? not so much, actually.
* how big of an issue is political beliefs, to your compatibility? not at all.
* how big of an issue is religion to your, compatibility? not likely!
* how big of an issue to you is your mate's ethnicity? None.
* in a potential mate, how important is conversation to you? It's certianly useful. With jason, it was all we had.
* in a potential mate, how important is intelligence to you? depends what kind of intelligent. I did much better at school than Jason, but it never bothered me because we could still talk about loads of stuff. If a person was out and out dumb, then ys, it would bother me.
* in a potential mate, how important is sense of humor to you? not important.
* in a potential mate, how important is understanding to you? I want to be understanding for them, but I don't care if they're undestanding for me or not. I'm not emotionally demanding
* in a potential mate, how important is forgiveness to you? I forgive mot anything, but i don't expect the same in return.
* what makes your heart flutter, and brings a bit cheesy smile to your face? not much, really.

makin' out
* what was your first kiss like? um, sloppy peck on hte lips. Or first time I pulled: sevceral hours of having my tongue sucked, basically, which got very boring and made my neck ache.
* what parts of a person's body do you find most attractive? hair, eyes, chest.
* what's the first thing you look at when you look at someone you're attracted to? hair, the it's holistic.
* how important is the looks of a mate's face to you? tolerable, i guess!
* how important is the looks of a mate's body to you? different with guys and girls (duh!) Guys I don't like to be overweight, but skinny is okay. Girls, I don't like skinny, but overweight is fine.
* when you kiss someone for the first time, is it usually you who initiates it, or the other? me, or mutual.
* when you are about to kiss someone for the first time, do you generally feel calm, or are you nervous? it'susually spontaneous so i don't think.
* can you generally tell when the time is right for a first kiss to happen with your object of interest? yeah
* what are you're favorite places to be touched? skin on skin is good anywhere. God, that sounds dodgy!
* what are your favorite places to touch? *shrugs*
* what are you're favorite places to be kissed? *shrugs*
* what are your favorite places to kiss? *shrugs*
* do you prefer long sensual kisses or shorter pecks? depends on how good they are at kissing.
* have you ever kissed someone you longed for? only as part of spin hte bottle, which doesn't exactly count, IMO.
* how did that make you feel? cheated
* have you ever casually made out with someone who you weren't seriously involved with? many many times.
* were you single at the time? me, yes, him, not always.
* what are your ticklish areas? dunno. no one tickles me much
* what are your turn-offs? too much making out, too much saliva
* what do you most like about making out? skin contact.

sex (there are a lot of action-specific questions I could ask, but I'll save those for the purity tests) (oh, and remember, all this is optional)
* are you a virgin? yup
* if not, would you consider your first time to have been a good one? N/A
* how old were you when you lost your virginity? N/A
* have you ever had sex with someone you loved? N/A I can see that this is going to get repeptitive)
* have you ever turned down an offer for sex? one, but that was from Laxman, so I'm not taking it that seriously.
* if you are a virgin, how do you feel about sex? I'd rather do it with a mate, casually, and get it over with, than wait for someone I love. I wouldn't want to lose my vriginty to someone I jus started dating, who I hadn't know before, though.
* if you are a virgin, (rock on!), what are your reasons to stay that way? being single. duh.
* how much do you think sex changes a relationship? (only I saw the first time I loked at this line was 'sex changes'. I'm disapointed with hte quesiton now) depends on the relationship beforehand
* has anyone ever walked in on you during love-making? no
* on a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being highest) how would you rate your sexual attractiveness? depends on my mood, my skin, my hair nad my clothes, 2-6
* on a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being highest) how would you rate your - *ahem* - kink factor? 4.
* how do you feel about casual sex? Indifferent.
* at what level of importance does sex factor into your relationships? That depends on the relationship.
* how important is it to talk frankly about sex? *shrugs*
* would you stay with a lover if the love stopped, but the sex was still enjoyable? the question is not whether the love stops, but whether it ever starts.
* would you stay with a lover if the sex stopped / got boring, but there was still love? I can't imagine myself falling in love. ever.

love
* do you believe in love? yes, but I feel like I'm too pragmatic to ever fall in love
* do you believe in love at first sight? not so much. desire at first sight, yes, which isn't the same as lust at first sight.
* what would it take for you to love someone? a personality implant.
* has someone ever told you they loved you? no.
* have you ever told someone you loved them and meant it? no.
* have you ever told someone you loved them and not meant it? no.
* do you believe it's necessary to express your love in words, of is just the atmosphere and feelings enough? I like words. Misunderstanding hppen when there aren't words.
* are you a monogamous person, or do you believe in open-ended realtionships? I beleive the level of comminment should be the same on both sides, so it's by a relationship by relationship basis. But then, it's never relaly occured to me to cheat.
* do you believe love can end, or do you think it never goes away, and just changes, or what? people change, but love ought to change too. I think you can love an idea, or a relationship, but not the person you're with ,and not realise it until you've reached a point where everything has run it's course and you've gone as far as you can go with that relationship.

marriage
* have you ever been married? No.
* how do you feel about marriage? I want to. I want to be housewife with 2.4 kids and joe normal husband. Or gay husband.
* if you're currently not married, do you foresee yourself ever tying the knot? when i'm feeling optimistic.
* do you plan on having children some day? yep.
* what are your feelings on polyamoury (an "open" marriage, aka swinging)? Not in a marriage, but in any other relationship.
* Do you feel that Bill Clinton's extramarital affairs were really the business of everyone else in the world? No. Wht's the point in this question?

breakups
* have you ever had your heart broken? no.
* have you ever been dumped? no, though I have had a guy stop calling me when i was still calling him, which threw me. I think I put him off by saying "Oh, okay," when he told me he had cheated on me.
* have you ever dumped someone? tried once, stopped calling three times.
* have you ever mutually broke up with someone? I guess not calling counts, as they have to stop caling you too.
* has a romantic companion ever made you cry? not bloody likely.
* did you cry in their presence? n/a
* did you cry with them? n/a
* have you ever made a romantic companion cry? I don't know. I hope not.
* have you ever had an emotional pain so bad it made you sick or physically hurt? that would involve emotional commitment.
* have you ever been unfaithful? if so, how did it make you feel? no. But I'v had other people cheat on their lover with me
* if so, did they find out? n/a.
* have you ever been cheated on? Yes, but I really didn't care.
* have you ever had to end a relationship due to life changes not related to romance (ie moving, strict parents, etc)? I use them as excuses, sometimes.
* have you ever learned an important lesson as a result of a break up? if someone assumes that agreeing to meet them means you're dating, correct them imediately, not five months later.

the aftermath
* have you ever gotten back together with someone after breaking up? no
* did it work? n/a
* do you believe there's hope for people after they get back together, or do you think the same problems that caused the initial break-up will resurface? depends on why they broke up, and why they got back together. People do change, yunno.
* have you ever broke up and remained friends afterward? of the three boyfs, Jason is the only one I've seen since, and it all seems fine.
* have you ever broke up and became bitter enemies? nope.
* if so, did you ever made amends? n/a.
* have you ever broke up and lost touch? nearly always. seeing guys again freaks me out a bit.
* have you ever got back in touch with an old flame after a time of more than 3 months of no communication? only accidentally.
* were you afraid to do so? n/a.
* do you ever check up on old flames (whether by asking mutual friends, for example), without actually contacting them? nope
* if you've ever lost touch or went sour with someone who you loved, how did it make you feel? ambivilant.
* have you ever longed to get back together with someone? not unless I'm feeling really sick of being single.
* although it surely depends on specific relationships, how long does it take before your out looking for companionship again? I dot go looking, but i can't imagine mourning most relationship for more than a fortnight, unless it was marriage/realy long term relationship.

Wow, I'm a shallow, cold-hearted, callous conformist. I knew all that already. But damn if that wasn't a depressing meme to fill in, and how incredibly negative do I feel now?