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[minervasolo]

Whichis worse, to be passive aggressive, or outright aggressive? outright cuases more trouble, since it's much harder to ignore, but passive can make poeple paranoid, if they ever notice at all.

I'm very passive aggressive. If I have any strong emotion towarsd a person, like hell I'm oging to tell them. I just make remarks that pretty much only Iget, since I'm the only one who knows, and drop half hints which would be huge hints if I didn't go back and make them more cryptic so as not to hurt people. I don't want to hurt people. So I kinda get surprised when people hurt me, and most of the time I assume it was by accident. Doesn't do much for the hurter, especially if this tendency to accidentally hurt me is a personality trait of theirs I dislike. I'm not going to ask people to change though. For some reason, I'm rather against that. I'll reference things that irritate me, sometimes actualyl say it to a person's face, but only if I know beforehand how they're likely to take it. Even if that's impossible.

I'm being passive aggressive here. Doesn't take a genius to figure out I got a little hurt today, huh? I've been overtired for the past few days which makes me more sensitive. Of course, being me, knowing it wasn't meant to hurt and knowing it was daft to get hurt over it because I'm tired, I ignored it and it didn't really hurt, but my usual 'tired' mood means that I'm upset that it didn't hurt me. Like I got upset about imaginary!Wedding, which is a good reason not to get too involved in daydreams when you're drifting in and out of sleep and can't control them particularly well. Point is I'm sensitive to things that would hurt me and I'm getting upset that they don't. I'm not actually hurt, though i guess I might have been for a microsecond. Mildly irritated, in a way. I don't know. I really really really need to get more sleep at the moment. Yay weekend.

Anyway, the question again: which is worse, passive aggressive or outright aggressive?

Comments

[franky-spade.livejournal.com]

um... outright, it scares me. hugs. if u need winge time i can always listen, being fairly passive myself i work on the basis of winge time, normaly in art, but we can form our own passive club, yay!!!!

sleep more.

[mericangrl.livejournal.com]

Depends on the situation. I think that (in this specfic case) a polite request would have been the best response...no one would get hurt. I try to do things that way most of the time but sometimes by horrible temper gets the better of me. Obviously, since I wasn't there I can't really comment on anyone's actions. So ::hugs::